Vulnerability means being willing to be brave with someone else. I’m an exquisitely human human being and it’s important to me to bring that whole human person into the coaching session. I’m far from perfect, I don’t have it all together, and guess what? The same it true for every other person in our lives. By being vulnerable with one another, we can practice being fully present and real in relationship. By practicing together, you will learn how to bring that courageous connection to other relationships.

Vulnerability is the secret sauce for fulfilling, intimate relationships!

I have a guess about anyone who is reading this page: I’m going to guess that you feel really big things, in such a big way that it feels really scary sometimes. Maybe it’s sadness. Or worry. Or pain. Or anger. Or fear.

I’m also going to guess that you might hold these feelings in, or try to not feel them, because you don’t want to “put” those feelings on anyone else. I’m going to guess it feels really lonely.

Empathy means I don’t just want you to feel safe having those emotions in our sessions, I want to feel those emotions with you. It is a deeply powerful experience to have someone cry with you, or rage with you, and I offer that experience to my clients.

Your feelings won’t scare me :) They’re beautiful and worthy of attention and care.

The absolute hardest part of my healing journey has been learning how to get inside my body. My brain is my safe space and my heart is my natural place of rest. But my body? I’ve been trying to ignore that since childhood.

Purity culture adds that additional layer of shame and “sinfulness” associated with our bodies, and this is one of the greatest evils of the entire philosophy.

Your body is an incredible place of wisdom. Learning to sink into that wisdom and learning from your flesh is vital to healing and growing pleasure.

Mindfulness is the practice by which we can be vulnerable, empathetic, embodied people. By practicing mindfulness—bringing awareness to ourselves and what is happening with ourselves in REAL TIME—we build intimacy with ourselves and others.

Mindfulness is not one-size-fits-all; we might need to try several different methods to find what works for you. All I ask is that you are open to the exploration!

Pleasure is what it is all about! Purity culture and Christianity are ruthlessly effective in cutting pleasure out of the human existence and it’s time to break free!

Pleasure is about more than sex, or good food, or drugs, or any of the other fear-mongering categories we’ve been taught. Pleasure is about connecting to yourself and others to find joy in this existence.

Orgasms are part of my experience of pleasure, but it might not be for you! The important thing is for YOU to make that decision and determination, not anyone else.

Pleasure is your birthright. It is time to claim it.

The coaching relationship is one that has professional boundaries, but that doesn’t make the connection we have any less real or meaningful. We will connect with one another on different levels, and by practicing those connections in the coaching relationship, you’ll have the confidence to bring those skills into your other relationships.

Purity culture is all about control. It is one of my deepest held values to not exert control over others. If the only thing you take away from our time together is the confidence to assert your autonomy, that is healing worthy of SO MUCH celebration.

Part of my support of your autonomy is having a practice based on flexibility. In our sessions, I want to do what works for YOU; that means being open to feedback and conversation about what’s working and what isn’t.

This is about you, not me. I’m here to support you being the fullest, best version of yourself!